My bf is an avid salsa dancer-lives and breathes it. Weve dated off and on 3yrs. He said day 1 he didnt want to date anyone he dances with yet this is the majority of his life. How can i not feel excluded? The handful of times ive gone with him to the salsa club i end up sitting and watching him -- he dances with everyone & whoever he wants and he tells me who i can dance with. I practically have to get permission. So i just quit going. It was causing probs. I love dancing- of all kinds. I love salsa and bachata. I thought learning salsa/bachata would help things. But not really. He says ill never understand his way of life when it comes to dancing. Hes puerto rican so he always says its in his blood, its his culture, hus heritage, etc. Im all for doing things on our own but every fri and sat he has to go out til 3/4am to dance and asking him to spend a wknd with me is asking him to cut off his foot! I live an hour away and he says accept me for me- i have but what about me? He makes me feel selfish when i dont think im asking that much. I would really like to be part of the dancing but he doesn't want me to. He goes to several salsa congresses/conventions every year- theyre wknd long events. Those take priority over everything. I can count on not spending time together when a comgress/convention comes up.. Is this overboard on his part? I just want to share in the things we do.