General Dance Discussion > Dancing with different instructors

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by Sooziq, Dec 2, 2016.

  1. anntennis

    anntennis Active Member

    It is absolutely normal to take lessons with as many instructors as YOU want, but it has to be your decision.

    I would be extremely upset as you are.

    If it is not the only studio where you live, I would ask for my money back and start searching for other alternatives, perhaps, independent instructor of YOUR choice.

    It could be wording in your lesson package that they can switch instructors, though.

    Check that first. If the studio owner is a true professional, I hope he would not hold you to that , and will return the money. It is not a good atmosphere.

    You are paying for private lessons. It has to be your choice.

    I used to pay for package in NYC large studio, but I only wanted to dance with one specific instructor. Only once, when my teacher could not make it, I was offered a lesson with another instructor for half price. (My teacher could not make it that day, and I already was on my way to the studio).
  2. sbrnsmith

    sbrnsmith Well-Known Member

    Having two instructors can go wrong as I've discovered. A year ago, I casually began taking lessons with a second instructor. My plan was to add to what I had, and hopefully improve my dancing. I had in no way planned to give up my current instructor, who I've been with for 4 years and is the best fit for me. This was clearly conveyed to the second instructor. Second instructor seemed like a nice guy who had a lot to offer. Things started heading south pretty quickly. Second instructor began trying to take over my dance time. He wanted me to commit to comps with him. He became petulant when I mentioned that was not what I had intended. He also kept trying to manipulate me by saying he had other students, from whom he was taking time away to dance with me. This is due to distance involved- I told him it's his choice how he makes time for all his students. If he feels traveling to lessons for me is not worth it, he was not obligated to continue to do so. We only had a handful of lessons, but the whole thing has become a mess. I finally sent him an email saying it won't work for us, and thanked him for his time, wished him well was a pretty clear email. After 2 weeks, he texted me to say that he will be at a studio nearby, and I could drop by if I like, to dance or to talk. I did not go. ... this story is just to show how it can also go wrong when one tries to have 2 instructors.
  3. snapdancer

    snapdancer Well-Known Member

    My takeaway was different. I think that this issue was more about instructor #2 than having two instructors at a time. Sounds like instructor #2 is a control freak and you would have issues even if he were your only instructor.

    A friend of mine is a showcase girl. Last month she performed 3 showcases at an event with 3 different instructors. At the same event. I'm not hearing any reports of conflict. It can work.
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  4. IndyLady

    IndyLady Well-Known Member

    Agree with this. I'm not the friend in question here (to the best of my knowledge), but same for me re: bolded - I performed routines (5 total) with 3 different instructors at the most recent Showcase. There was no issue between them. Of course, they were all at the same studio and it is the norm at my studio to have two instructors, so the culture was not inherently conducive to conflict.
  5. snapdancer

    snapdancer Well-Known Member

    I should add that all 3 of the instructors in my example were independent instructors, two of whom teach out of the same studio.
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  6. anntennis

    anntennis Active Member

    I used to perform many showcases at the different studios with three independent teachers, and one "studio" teacher.
    All routines were different. The teachers knew about each other and just concentrated on my dancing with them.
    As far as I know there were not any conflicts.
  7. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    wrt sbrn's situation: that sounds more to me like #2 thought he had a chance to become #1...because while I think many are fine with being #2, I don't know of many who would travel to a student for whom they are number 2 unless they thought there was a chance of competing or they had a lot of debt...sounds to me like he wanted to see how likely she was to make him number one by pressuring her and he lost the bet and/or just felt like if she wasn't going to compete, she wasn't worth the trip
  8. Newdancer81

    Newdancer81 Active Member

    I've been doing this dance thing for almost 2 years now. At the 1 year mark, I was encouraged to try a different instructor for different types of dance. After 2-3 months with instructor #2, I switched back to the original instructor, even for the other type of dances. Here's what I learned.

    1. Instructor #2 was great at teaching steps, but not so much technique.
    2. Instructor #1 always wanted technique perfect before moving on and always explained why and made me feel what the follower should feel (which is helpful as a lead).

    So when I switched back to instructor #1, she made me change a few things and I found it quite easy. It was like having "steps for beginners" and then "technique classes".

    Now on the same note, I just learned instructor #1 is moving out of province, and I still have a couple of privates left. Initial reaction was "cool, I'm happy for you". Instructor #2 is no longer there. I'm doing this for fun though. However, while I know they are being paid to be friendly and all, I still feel like we have a bit of a friendship, so I was kind of sad. We sometimes chat after she is done work, go for a coffee or something. I still want to maintain our friendship (if you can call it that). Would it be normal for a former student and instructor to have a friendship?
  9. snapdancer

    snapdancer Well-Known Member

    My approach is to learn steps in group classes, and focus on technique in privates so I can dance the steps instead of just stepping them.
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  10. Mr 4 styles

    Mr 4 styles Well-Known Member

    I'm friends with my former smooth pro who is in AZ. We still see each other at galaxy and talk on the phone periodically. I miss her. Amazing woman
  11. newbie

    newbie Well-Known Member

    Try to know if it's his usual way with his students, if he commonly sends his pupils to this other, higher-level teacher when he sees that a pupil has potential, while he as a lesser teacher, keeps the hopeless pupils for himself.

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