"Girlfriend, the way you style made me poop my pants". Sometimes you go into a club, find a complete stranger, and then completely connect with each other on the dance floor. The song(s) finish, you're both sweaty and huffing, and the first words that come out of your mouth, "Wow, you're a pretty good dancer". "Hey, that was fun!". "You rock!". The next week, the same out-of-body experience on the dance floor. You both come down from cloud 9 and, "Gee, thanks". "Wow, we got to do that again". Remember third grade? You need to show, not tell. Next time, explain why they rock. "Wow, that triple flip up in the air in the middle of the crowded dance floor really took my breath away, I thought I was going to die!". "Holy crap, someone actually knows about eye contact in salsa, you are da' man!". Point out things that other people might have noticed but never expressed out loud. Or tell them how the dance made you feel. One of the best compliments for me, "Wow, if I close my eyes during this bachata, I can imagine myself back in the Dominican Republic". "You put so much feeling into your dancing, I can feel every beat of the music when I dance with you!" Don't settle for mediocrity. Guess what, by pointing out what other people do well, you get to start to slowly incorporate these elements into your own dancing. But please, in moderation only, a brown nose is as big a turnoff as body odour.... And yes, neoDevin, this works for vengeful putdowns too.