(This is a spin-off question off of http://www.dance-forums.com/threads/is-staying-on-beat-important.47352/) Have to mention that I've been only dancing for couple of months, so I stay within my league. I just started dancing socially (i.e. outside of the group class setting where instructor counts, and outside of private classes where the instructor knows how to dance) and I found that women I dance with a ignorant-incompetent about beat and phrase. I've been having hard time figuring out the beat on the floor while I have no problems doing it off the floor, until I realized that I was assuming that my partners know what they are doing and was trying to find the beat they were dancing to. Once I realized that - things got a little better on one hand - now I can dance on beat. Which puts me off sync with my partner. Hence this question. Am I doing it wrong? Should I try to force the follow on beat? or dance to different rhythms? or succumb to her rhythm?