Do you see it as desperate and inauthentic? I've never been the type of guy who did well at bars to meet women. I'm not tall or handsome and although I'm a good conversationalist, I'm not able to make girls I've just met laugh. Online dating doesn't work either because I am short and a lot of women screen me out before getting to know me. I admit that my initial motivation to make the leap and learn to dance was so that I could gain confidence and be more attractive to women. I once went to a free salsa dancing event. I noticed the guys who could dance looked far more confident and poised than the desperate guys who scoured the place trying to talk to every attractive girl (and mostly failing). The guys who could dance were cool and chill and just exuded this quiet confidence that even me as a straight guy I found to be very attractive. I think women find that much more appealing than the guy who is trying too hard. As I started dancing though, I fell in love with dance itself. Just the little nuances and the elegance and the discipline. It shouldn't come as a surprise I guess since I also play music and I'm interested in the arts in general. It's also an easier way to interact with women. I don't mean sexually. I mean, just being able to talk and interact with them. At a bar or club, the women are defensive and in some cases, even rude and you'd have to spend a lot of money buying girls drinks just to be able to even have a conversation with one. For shy, inexperienced guys like myself, the interaction with women greatly enhances one's intuition when it comes to how women are feeling and how to gauge their emotional state of mind. The few guys I know who also dance also admitted that their initial motivation was to improve their prospects at meeting the ladies. But now they're all hooked and into it because they just love to dance. Ladies, what do you think of guys like myself? Am I a loser for trying to become more attractive? Is it even a worthwhile endeavor or should unattractive guys just throw in the towel and leave all the girls for the naturally good looking guys?