Ok..I have a fellow class member in AT...she has major intimacy/closeness issues - will not let a guy get anywhere near her- to a point where we can barely embrace when dancing. Needless to say, this has made her a poor dancer - no semblance of synchronous movement, cannot feel nor sense the leads direction, weight transfer etc...and on the other side, the leads feel awkward as well - we can't lead! No connection in the embrace (nit really an embrace - she won't allow any lead to come anywhere near her), just can't non verbally communicate etc...she prefers holding hands and that too far apart rather than any embrace.!!!!! Consistent with all leads and consistent over time. How do you think we leads should approach this? Thankfully, she is the only follower that is like this (the others welcome close embrace leadership).. so not a big deal.. As a lead, I respect wishes of followers if they want to keep distance...but this is too far apart for any meaningful dance and significantly detracts from enjoyment and also hinders anyone from getting more competent in the dance.